--- product_id: 4103183 title: "Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children" price: "R$210" currency: BRL in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.com.br/products/4103183-parent-effectiveness-training-the-proven-program-for-raising-responsible-children store_origin: BR region: Brazil --- # Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children **Price:** R$210 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children - **How much does it cost?** R$210 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.com.br](https://www.desertcart.com.br/products/4103183-parent-effectiveness-training-the-proven-program-for-raising-responsible-children) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description UPDATED 2019 EDITION • The pioneering book that’s guided millions of parents to more effectively resolve conflicts, communicate, and create loving relationships with their children—from Nobel Peace Prize nominee Dr. Thomas Gordon P.E.T., or Parent Effectiveness Training, began in 1962 as the first national parent-training program to teach parents how to communicate more effectively with kids and offer step-by-step advice to resolve family conflicts so everybody wins. This beloved classic is the most studied, highly praised, and proven parenting program in the world—and it will work for you. Now revised and updated, this groundbreaking guide will show you: • How to avoid being a permissive parent • How to listen so kids will talk to you and talk so kids will listen to you • How to teach your children to “own” their problems and to solve them • How to apply the “No Lose” method to resolve conflicts Using the timeless methods of P.E.T. will have immediate results: less fighting, fewer tantrums and lies, no need for punishment. Whether you have a toddler striking out for independence or a teenager who has already started rebelling, you’ll find P.E.T. a compassionate, effective way to instill responsibility and create a nurturing family environment in which your child will thrive. Review: Classic, proven skills training, the best. - Time honored communication skills. Excellent why and how-to employ active listening for parents, teachers, and, well… everyone. Strong pedigree: Thomas Gordon and Carl Rogers (look him up on Wikipedia). Review: Only parenting book you ever need! If you read no other, read this one! Even for a Christian parent! - If you read no other book on parenting ever in your life, or have never read a parenting book. This is the book I'd recommend! And if you simply cannot bring yourself to read a book. He has audio options, either an Itunes audio book, an audible book or a book on CD selection. I enjoyed reading Connection Parenting, Unconditional Parenting, and How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk. But this book, is just my favorite of them all. And I believe that many of the ideas in How to Talk so your kids will listen are taken from Dr. Gordon's method, but PET has a bit of an easier to understand and implement concept if I were to compare the two books. So what makes this my favorite: It's clear and easy to understand. -It tells you exactly what steps a parent should follow (and how to follow them in your own home) to eliminate being a parent that uses punishment or rewards or from being a permissive parent. -His methods are able to be used with all age children, non verbal children, to teens. -He talks about the misconception of the wild uncontrollable teen and how that is a fallacy. -It's a respectful, kind loving way to parent. But is not permissive. -He has quite a good bit of info on both the controlling and permissive parenting style and the effects of using them with children. Especially because many parents who are new to respectful parenting mislabel it as permissive. Key points of this book: -Punishment can be discarded forever, all kinds, not just the physical kind. -Parents can raise children who are responsible, self-disciplined, and cooperative without relying on the weapon of fear. -He teaches about a conflict resolution method that has no losers and no winners. -He helps parents discern behaviors. A behavior is something your child does or says, not your judgement of that behavior. -Door openers: These are constructive ways of responding to a children's feeling messages or problem messages. (He gives a list of these, to help us parents out!) -Talks about how to figure out what is your child's problem and what is a parent problem. -Effective ways to deal when a child's behavior interferes with a parents need. -He has great information on Parental Power and all the negatives about using this method on your children. If you use a traditional parenting model, this will really be informative. -He talks about ways to change unacceptable behavior and gives concrete ways to help you make those changes. If you want to treat your children with respect and kindness but have no idea what to replace traditional parenting models/methods with, this book will provide the answer. I am a Christian Mom and found this book and these methods to fully support gentle Christian Parenting. *Please excuse any typos. ## Features - Parent - children - responsible - training ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #59,033 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #88 in Conflict Management #89 in Family Conflict Resolution #217 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.6 out of 5 stars 743 Reviews | ## Images ![Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/7160rRfjE6L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Classic, proven skills training, the best. *by A***H on March 13, 2026* Time honored communication skills. Excellent why and how-to employ active listening for parents, teachers, and, well… everyone. Strong pedigree: Thomas Gordon and Carl Rogers (look him up on Wikipedia). ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Only parenting book you ever need! If you read no other, read this one! Even for a Christian parent! *by M***B on May 24, 2012* If you read no other book on parenting ever in your life, or have never read a parenting book. This is the book I'd recommend! And if you simply cannot bring yourself to read a book. He has audio options, either an Itunes audio book, an audible book or a book on CD selection. I enjoyed reading Connection Parenting, Unconditional Parenting, and How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk. But this book, is just my favorite of them all. And I believe that many of the ideas in How to Talk so your kids will listen are taken from Dr. Gordon's method, but PET has a bit of an easier to understand and implement concept if I were to compare the two books. So what makes this my favorite: It's clear and easy to understand. -It tells you exactly what steps a parent should follow (and how to follow them in your own home) to eliminate being a parent that uses punishment or rewards or from being a permissive parent. -His methods are able to be used with all age children, non verbal children, to teens. -He talks about the misconception of the wild uncontrollable teen and how that is a fallacy. -It's a respectful, kind loving way to parent. But is not permissive. -He has quite a good bit of info on both the controlling and permissive parenting style and the effects of using them with children. Especially because many parents who are new to respectful parenting mislabel it as permissive. Key points of this book: -Punishment can be discarded forever, all kinds, not just the physical kind. -Parents can raise children who are responsible, self-disciplined, and cooperative without relying on the weapon of fear. -He teaches about a conflict resolution method that has no losers and no winners. -He helps parents discern behaviors. A behavior is something your child does or says, not your judgement of that behavior. -Door openers: These are constructive ways of responding to a children's feeling messages or problem messages. (He gives a list of these, to help us parents out!) -Talks about how to figure out what is your child's problem and what is a parent problem. -Effective ways to deal when a child's behavior interferes with a parents need. -He has great information on Parental Power and all the negatives about using this method on your children. If you use a traditional parenting model, this will really be informative. -He talks about ways to change unacceptable behavior and gives concrete ways to help you make those changes. If you want to treat your children with respect and kindness but have no idea what to replace traditional parenting models/methods with, this book will provide the answer. I am a Christian Mom and found this book and these methods to fully support gentle Christian Parenting. *Please excuse any typos. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Sceptical until half-way through then utterly won over *by C***E on September 1, 2013* I read various Kindle samples of child raising books before deciding to purchase this one. Although the beginning is very theoretical, it was also really interesting and I wanted to know more - on top of the positive, detailed reviews. Why I was sceptical at first : basically, what the author says is to make a difference between: -children-owned problems (child's trouble in their own life away from home, eg bad grades, argument with a friend etc.) which you solve by active listening - with examples of dialogues, do's and dont's. -parent-owned problems (child directly interfering with the parent's limits, eg not doing house chores, coming home late, etc.) which you solve by I-statements, again with examples. The good news : parents can be themselves, can and should be honest with their feelings because children detect insincerity miles away, and don't even have to be 100% consistent or in agreemen with each other all the time because hey, we're humans, not robots, and children know this. So far so good, by now probably most people know of these 2 concepts, active listening and I-statements, and they are thoroughly described in the book, but I thought it was a bit thin and nowhere near enough to cover all possible aspects of parent-child conflicts. Then the author went on to address more complicated or recurring issues by explaining the 3 possible methods of dealing with discipline problems : -"method I" eg authoritative : the parent "wins", the child "loses". -"method II" eg over-permissive : the child "wins", the parent "loses". Most families are entrenched in one or the other, or worse, keep on oscillating between the two. The bad news : whichever way you choose your children will end up disliking you, even "firing" you as parent (I) or using you (II). More bad news : the whole system of rewards and punishments does not work long term because as soon as children get older, a parent has less means to pressure them or reward them in order to make them do, or not do, something. The solution presented as "method III" consists of creative problem-solving together with the child, still using I-statements to express the parent's problem, and active listening to define the child's perception of it. The idea is that children actively participate in solving the issue,don't feel blamed and are more committed to carrying it through There were lots of examples and a very good conclusion about how to save themselves some pain, parents should just drop issues that are just not harmful to them (teenage with punk haircut for ex) and lead fulfilling lives in order to avoid "over-investing" in their children's lives. Living your values fully is the best way to influence your children with them. Now, I realize this last part won't go down well with everyone... but by then I was completely won over and ready to try, not least because every single one of my objections was addressed : -how to deal with toddlers was covered in different parts in a quite satisfactory way -how not to make active listening feel like parroting to the child -urgent, crisis situations -what if/when children just don't listen -what are the typical mistakes a prent using method III might do a first/what may hinder the resolution -lots of good reasons to try it and let go of old-fashioned, carrot-and-stick methods! - ## Frequently Bought Together - Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children - How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series) - Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.com.br/products/4103183-parent-effectiveness-training-the-proven-program-for-raising-responsible-children](https://www.desertcart.com.br/products/4103183-parent-effectiveness-training-the-proven-program-for-raising-responsible-children) --- *Product available on Desertcart Brazil* *Store origin: BR* *Last updated: 2026-05-20*